Dear friend,
I want to talk about what it really means to put yourself first.
Or maybe better said, becoming the one in your own life.
The person you can rely on. The person who takes responsibility for their health, energy, attention, and peace.
Because I keep noticing something.
A lot of people put everyone else first: family, friends, work, team, clients, whatever the case is.
And listen, empathy is beautiful and altruism is needed. Being there for people matters, I’m not arguing against that.
But too often, people put others first and completely abandon themselves in the process.
When I was a kid, my grandmother used to say:
Whoever saves themselves can save the world.
At the time, I didn’t really understand it. Honestly, I thought it sounded selfish.
Then I got older and realized what she meant:
If you don’t take care of yourself first, what exactly are you giving to others?
Your exhaustion and stress? Resentment? Your half-present self?
That doesn’t really serve anyone.
Real service starts when you are grounded enough to actually show up.
For me, this always comes back to health.
Health is the foundation. If you don’t have health, everything else becomes questionable.
You can have money, but if your body is falling apart, what is it really worth?
You can have the perfect job, but if your mind is constantly stressed, how much can you actually enjoy it? You can have people around you, but if you’re not present, are you really with them?
That’s why putting yourself first is not ego.
It’s responsibility.
It means you stop outsourcing your wellbeing and you stop waiting for someone else to save your day. You stop pretending you can pour from an empty cup forever.
You become the person in your life who takes ownership.
And once you become stronger, healthier, calmer, and more present, you naturally become better for everyone around you.
Being number one in your life doesn’t mean putting yourself above everyone. It means finally putting yourself where you belong, at the center of your own responsibility.
So my dear friend, be the one.
Not above others, but fully responsible for yourself.
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Be the one for yourself, so you can show up fully for others.
Truly yours, this moment.
Armando